Chasing Love thru Asia: Our story begins in Singapore
Last time I wrote I talked about how life took off in a new direction for me and I found love in Chiang Mai. It’s been one hell of a ride. That’s for sure. (If you missed out you can get caught up here). Anyways…
It’s been 59 days since I last saw Paolo and said goodbye to him at the Bangkok airport in Thailand. He was flying to Dubai where he would join the cruise ship to return to work and I would head to Laos for a visa run. At that time it was a very strange moment for the both of us. I mean, we had only spent 30-days together and now we are talking of quitting jobs, starting a life together, and finding new ways to create income. It’s a new path and he has to be sure before making that leap of faith on something built in just a short amount of time. Can one ever really know for sure? I can understand being nervous and the millions of thoughts that can run through your head in moments like this…
So in that moment in Bangkok where we were saying goodbye to each other, I didn’t know how to feel and I don’t think he did either. It was unsettling as I watched him go through security where I could not be and disappear into the airport.
Is this for real?
Was it just a moment in time where two people had an amazing time together and that’s that?
Is this goodbye forever or is this just goodbye I’ll see you soon.
I had no idea how to feel. I didn’t know if I should be strong and walk away from the whole thing, cry, or be happy about the future.
I had a few hours in the hotel room we stayed in together before starting my train journey to Laos. It was empty. I felt empty. I was really confused and I didn’t know whether to let go or hold on and enjoy the ride. I was a train wreck.
I don’t know why this was so hard for me because I really only had one option, jump. Because that’s just how I roll.
It only took a few days of us being apart for both of us to know that we truly wanted to do this and we have spent the last 59 days furthering our relationship as best we can on Skype. He spends a lot of money to Skype me via satellite from the cruise ship everyday. He jokes that he’s set the record for highest internet bill on board. If there was a trophy, I’m positive he would’ve won it.
Paolo has a 6-month contract with the cruise ship he is working on, but neither of us wanted to stay apart for that long so I purchased plane tickets to follow the cruise ship around asia that spanned Singapore, Bangkok (Thailand), Ho Chi Minh (Vietnam), Halong Bay (Vietnam), and Hong Kong. We have been in discussions of him quitting early, but nothing is for sure at this point and it changes like the wind. Right now, I have just arrived to Singapore, the first stop in our Asian rendezvous adventure and it feels like I’ve waited forever for this moment. I am loving this story we are creating together.
When Asiarooms.com heard about our romantic rendezvous through Asia they decided to sponsor our Singapore stay with 2 nights at Hotel Clover. The hotel was in a hip area in the heart of Singapore with an interesting nightlife just down the street. It was a very simple 4-star hotel, but had a unique antique decor that made it feel special! Asia has this weird thing about glass bathrooms in nice hotels so that was a privacy adjustment.
I’ve used a lot of booking sites as I’ve traveled around Asia and the world and I get frustrated with how the information that is important to me is so difficult to find, time consuming to look through, or presented in a manner that isn’t intuitive. This is not the case with Asiarooms.
I found that I could search for rooms in the way I wanted to search for them and get the information I wanted quickly and easily which decreased the amount of time it takes to find and book a room. Time is money or adventure! Not only that, but you don’t prepay, you pay at the hotel. This is awesome because if the price of the room is actually lower at the hotel, you pay the lower price at check-out and if its higher, you pay the Asiarooms price. This is awesome for my budget!
My only compliant is occasionally in the search the prices are lower than what is shown as booking options on the hotel page and I’m not sure why. Since I found out about Asiarooms it has become my go-to booking site for hotels in Asia and I’ve already used it to book our hotel in Bangkok, the next port. If you book a few weeks in advance in cities like Hong Kong you can get some really good ‘early bird’ deals for some swank hotels. Score.
Paolo and I had arranged to meet at Hotel Clover at 10 am in the morning but at midnight he called me on Skype… He has to call me since my phone always has internet and his doesn’t. I thought it was sweet that we would see each other in a few hours, yet he still wanted to Skype and talk to me. I don’t think either of us slept that night…
It was a mixture of nervousness and excitement. I had a million questions running through my head. Would it be the same? Would it be different? What would we learn about each other? What would I say? I imagined in my mind what it would feel like to see him for the first time and what that moment would look like. In my mind it was going to be exactly like one of those hollywood movie moments…
But that’s totally not what happened. I was running 5-minutes late when my phone rang on Skype with a call from Paolo.
“Where are you?”
“I’m in a taxi, we’re turning on the street right now. I’ll be there in a minute.”
“You took a taxi?”
“I was running late…”
“I see you.”
We continued to talk on Skype while I made my way to the hotel since the taxi had passed it. When I entered, I took a look around and didn’t see him. The receptionist took one look at me and pointed behind a wall. “He’s over there.” As if she knew.
The moment was now.
I turned around the corner to see him sitting on a couch, dressed perfectly. He was nervous so he didn’t stand up crushing my running embrace hollywood movie dream. So I sat down next to him and we had a different kind of moment. It was beautiful and perfect with a hint of awkward.
To feel that feeling I missed so much during our time apart was indescribable. I can’t explain the sense of calm that overtakes me in his presence. To smell that familiar smell, to feel the emotion created just by simply touching him… It’s like a warm tequila shot for the emotional heart that overtakes your whole body. He’s like a drug that I can’t get enough of. My heart felt at ease as the moment validated our questioning minds.
Being away from someone that you love can make you appreciate the little things more. When we got into the room we just embraced each other for about an hour and enjoyed the moment we had been waiting so long for. It took a little while for our nerves to calm down and then everything just fell into place. It was like we were never apart. We work so well together and I was happy to finally be one.
Singapore is really expensive city and there isn’t much to do here besides the Singapore flyer (ferris wheel) and universal studios. It was raining on and off for the 3-days we had together so we decided just spend time together doing whatever, sleep in, and eat like royalty while taking care of a few things we needed to do for our future together around the city. We saw Chinatown for all of 5-minutes, ate an unforgettable dinner of crab and prawns in the seafood market, had the most amazing sushi, and got a couples massage. The rest of the time we were in the hotel…
I love taking photos and creating memories to look back on. At anytime I can go back and see all the amazing things I’ve seen or experienced and share it. Sometimes, I need that kind of reminder to show me just how much I’ve accomplished with the cards life has dealt me. It’s one of my favorite things about traveling. However, taking photos with Paolo, is like pulling teeth. I don’t have many photos of the things we did together because I forgot or maybe I just didn’t want to go through the drama of it. He threatens a lawyer if I post a photo on the blog without his approval. At first, the only photo he approved was the one above of our reflection in the glass shower. After lots of coaxing and giggles I now present to you, the many faces of Paolo….
Our time together was amazing and it was everything I imagined it to be and more. Paolo continues to surprise me in the things he says and the way he can be. We both have strange pasts, a language barrier to overcome, and a cultural difference so we decided that in Singapore we would talk about these things to make sure that nobody could ever get between us. There are things I learned that are hard for anyone to accept, but the past does not matter to me… Only the now and the future.
Singapore was a huge step forward for our relationship and it was difficult when it was time to say goodbye. My mind still wanders where this is going and I have a vision of where I want it to go, but in the meantime I’m enjoying the ride. I wasn’t ready for this to come into my life at this moment, but if we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives. With Paolo life is made of small beautiful moments and everyday we create something special.
… and I continue to fall as I watch him disappear into the crowd once again. However, this time it’s only 2-days before I see him in Bangkok and not an excruciating two months.
Disclosure: Asiarooms.com paid for our accommodation in Singapore, but as always my opinons are my own based on my experience.